Outside the Duggar-verse, there is the less overt but just as prevalent “ideal spouse” dating. Did she want my sweatshirt because she was cold, or because she likes me?This involves judging a potential guy or girl for the 38 qualities you are looking for in an ideal mate—before even grabbing coffee together. Sometimes the “hanging out” leads to hooking up, sans dating, which is another uber-confusing side effect of the Faux Christian Dating cycle. What if Christians just began to date like normal people—not dating toward immediate marriage and not eschewing dating for the less-desirable “hanging out” no man’s land?I have to admit that I’ve had to debate whether a certain double date was worth it or not because of who it was with.
“My daughter was interested in this nice Christian boy, but he strung her along for a year and a half.
Dating helps two people sort out what it would be like to be together, to be in a friendship.
Most of marriage involves time together, one on one, in a friendship.
” The truth is we all have struggles in our marriage, but there’s also a time and place to handle those struggles, and a double date is not one of them.
Instead, I’m trying to say “Be intentional in your double dates!