Participating in an affair necessitates entering an altered state of consciousness where only part of reality can be processed, the part that has to do with pleasure.
It’s like being in a trance, complete with it’s own logic.
However, at the same time you know you are treating yourself as if you do not deserve someone who could be there for you 100%.
Reading the above may bring up strong feelings that you haven’t been aware of before.
Friends and family sense you are closed off in some way, and can become confused and discouraged about your relationship with them.
You can feel this, yet are afraid it would cause more damage to their feelings about you if they knew.
But as things progress and the honeymoon period wears off you start to have questions, you bring them up to you lover, but most likely come away with answers that leave you only partially or not at all satisfied.
These questions have to do with what you mean to him, whether or not he will leave his wife for you, how he can justify cheating on his wife, whether or not he has done this before, or is cheating on you now.
Here is my version of her findings: Treasured, but used Being in love gives you the feeling that you are precious and treasured by him, but you cannot help but wonder…if it wasn’t for the sex, would he still want to be with me?When the full reality begins to hit home, it can be a painful and frightening time.Deep issues can surface, issues that, in the end have to do with your relationship to yourself more than anyone else.Your sense of intimacy with your lover can seem more intense when he becomes one of the few people you can really talk to.Free, but a prisoner You have been freed from the dating game, from the painful aspects of being single, yet you are tied to his schedule.