If you keep your 'criteria' equally as rosy, you're going to be disappointed eventually - because we're all human.
Sweet Dan, I do not "upsell" myself so start chewing!
Lowering expectations may get you more dates, yet there will be trouble in the long term of that relationship. There are a good portion that have expectations that surpass what they actually are bringing to the table themselves. I am a big proponent of getting people to "jump outside the box" so to say, when finding someone.
The problem is that some people are smitten and tunnel blinded by searching for 1 type of person even though that type may not be the best fit for who they are, yet they keep touching the flame that burns them. I feel in the dating world a good portion of folk are living in a monocultured world. I understand that we do have parameters, especially on what we don't like, yet there is that gray area of the unknown, and that area is rarely explored.
But at the same time, it is important to be realistic about how you stack up in the POF meat market.
If you're 150 pounds overweight and unemployed your not going to get anywhere contacting only 9's and 10's.
If you think they aren't, then why aren't you meeting those women in real life?
There's other times where I have to think about other chicks while I'm doing it, so I might as well be using my hand. There's been a very few times I've felt that strong, and I'm at the point where that part of me is dying.
Plentyoffish dating forums are a place to meet singles and get dating advice or share dating experiences etc.
Hopefully you will all have fun meeting singles and try out this online dating thing...
I downplay what I have/am if anything, as I have been told too many times that my background/education/profession/looks intimidate.
But I agree with you that a LOT of folks DO "upsell" and those of us who do not are the rarity not the norm.